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“Moreover, when God gives any man wealth and possessions, and enables him to enjoy them, to accept his lot and be happy in his work—this is a gift of God.” Ecclesiastes 5:19 (New International Version).  I love this verse, it’s something I personally need to hear.  If your anything like I am you know how easy it can be to get caught in the trap of (if – then) thinking.  (Sorry the geek coming out there) read more click-> %%title%%.

Can you succeed and still love God?

Can you “succeed” and still love God?

“You’re not listening! I’m telling you, you simply CAN’T have a lot of money, drive a nice car, or live in a big house if you want to serve God! You can’t have both!”  My friend was getting more frustrated.  He was so adamant about it that I decided to just leave it alone and listen.  We had been talking for a while and somehow we got onto the discussion of success, money, possessions and being a Christian.   He was 100% convinced that anyone that had wealth or was “successful” could not possibly love God.

Wow!  What a distortion of God’s word!

I would argue the question “Can I be successful and love God” isn’t actually the “right” question.  A more appropriate question is, “What does it mean to be successful, how do I understand what God wants for me.”

It’s my belief the two are not mutually exclusive, and a person can love God, and be successful.  One is not necessarily a path to other, nor is one exclusive of the other.

What about 1st Timothy 6:10 “For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil…”

Yea, what about it, it’s VERY true, I can relate!  Like most of us, there have been times in my life when I have struggled with the love of money.  However, it’s not the money, I believe, it’s safe to say you could insert “anything” in place of “money” and the passage would still be just as true.

For the love of “work” is a root of all kinds of evil…
For the love of “your house” is a root of all kinds of evil…
For the love of “facebook” is a root of all kinds of evil…
For the love of “your job” is a root of all kinds of evil…
For the love of “power or position” is a root of all kinds of evil…

or let me get a little closer to home for some of us, how about,

For the love of “your family or your children” is a root of all kinds of evil…

or even,

For the love of “ the ministry” is a root of all kinds of evil…

I know I’m stepping on toes here, but I have seen families destroyed by well meaning parents “serving God” all the while sacrificing their children to the “ministry” or “mission field”, it happens every day, examples abound.

“If it’s not about money, then why does Paul specifically call out money?”  I think Paul uses money in this example because it’s dead simple to understand, and hits home to a lot of us.
The important thing to take away is that the love of ANYTHING more than God is the root of all kinds of evil, when we put something, or someone, higher on our priority list than God we are headed for trouble.

The reality is that God has created each one of us TOTALLY unique with varying skills and gifts, and he calls us to serve in different ways!  The point Paul was making when he wrote this passage was that the “love” for something other than God was a root of all kinds of evil.  It is such a simple concept, it’s human nature to spend physical and mental energy on the things we “love”.

“If it’s not just about money, then why does Paul specifically call out money?”  I think Paul uses money in this example because it’s dead simple to understand, and hits home to a lot of us.
The important thing to take away is that the love of ANYTHING more than God is the root of all kinds of evil, when we put something, or someone, higher on our priority list than God we are headed for trouble.

So what’s the answer to the question, “can you succeed, and still love God?”

I believe that monetary wealth doesn’t have anything to do with success, and things like peace, rather than wealth should be used to define success.   Ask a person with money but no peace if they are happy and satisfied, if they answer honestly, they will never say they are happy.

Go out and love God, it’s through Him you will find “real” success.

-Christopher Behnke

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Is worry eating you alive?

Is worry eating you alive?  

Do you lay awake at night trying to figure out how to make it all work…  

Do you often look back fondly to when “things were easy” and when you didn’t have the worry you have now?    

Being worried about stuff, worried about things that are totally out of my control is one of the things I struggle with the most.  Worrying about today, worrying about tomorrow, about the kids, work, money, the house, the car, the dog, (Ok I don’t have a dog, but I do have a ferret, I guess I don’t actually worry about the ferret much) anyway, sometimes it feels like there is nothing in my life that I “don’t” worry about.   It’s something that I have struggled with my whole life.

One of my all time favorite verses in the Bible that I quoted in my last blog post was Luke 12:22-26, I love this verse because it’s not just true, but also simple and blunt, which is frankly what I need a lot of the time.  Another one that helps me when worry starts to creep into my head, “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today. Matthew 6:34 (NLT).  Isn’t this so true!

The reality is that being concerned and planning for the future, and the future of your family, specifically to ensure that you are able to provide for and meet their needs is important.  I don’t believe that’s what Jesus was talking about, for me,  most of the “worry” I have in my life is either, one -> about things that are totally out of my control, or two -> about things that are simply not that important in the grand scheme of things.  

For most “worries”, no amount of mental energy spent on it with have ANY effect at all.  All the self imposed stress and concern over something that you have no control over is frankly a total waste.  Spending all night long tossing and turning, worried about that big meeting tomorrow will have ZERO effect on the outcome of the meeting, you can’t “will” something to happen, it just doesn’t work that way.  

“People who work hard sleep well, whether they eat little or much. But the rich seldom get a good night’s sleep.”  Ecclesiastes 5:12 (NLT)

I think verse cuts right to the heart of a great deal of the stress in our culture.  Why is this verse so true?  Does money cause stress?  I don’t believe so, I believe what causes this kind of stress is the love of things, when we focus on things we will inevitably worry about them.  How am I going to save it, or insure it?  How am I going to invest it?  How am I going to protect it, or avoid taxes on it?

How am I going to keep from losing it?

The more you have, the more you’ve got to worry about.

So how do you live in a “stuff” culture like ours and not get caught in this cycle?  Well that’s the question isn’t it!  Jesus made it clear that the problem with money wasn’t money itself, but really was a heart condition about “things”.

I think the key is in that verse as well “People who work hard sleep well, whether they eat little or much. But the rich seldom get a good night’s sleep.”

The challenge is to find the gifts that God has given you and use them for his glory, and to work hard, doing just that. If your focused, He will take care of you “Luke 12”, you will be able to focus on the task at hand, “Mathew 6.”

Think about how sweet it would be if you weren’t worried about the “stuff” of your life, and could just focus on what’s actually important!

-Christopher Behnke

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More on the Fear of the Lord

A couple of weeks ago I posted a list of some of the blessings that come from fearing the Lord.  I didn’t want to let too much time pass before I share some important scriptures on fearing the Lord.

Throughout the Bible, the chief reaction we see when people have an encounter with God is fear.

  • Abraham feared God

Genesis 22:12

12 “Do not lay a hand on the boy,” he said. “Do not do anything to him. Now I know that you fear God, because you have not withheld from me your son, your only son.” read more click-> %%title%%.

A “must hear” – a first for me…

Though I admire his teaching and wisdom, I have found the denominational barrier of division between the Restoration Movement and Charles Stanley's Baptist background, a barrier of righteousness which separated.  Today that changes… Under the desperate times we live in, I have found a unity with denominations whom I thought I would never join arm and arm with.  We unify under the banner of Christ.  Specifically, the banner of Christ carried for this nation.
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Slow DOWN – life will keep on going even if your late to that meeting…

For the last couple weeks I have been writing about  things I have learned that help me get a TON of stuff done each day.  I really believe in the stuff I write about, I’m not gonna talk about it it if I don’t think its valuable and useful for someone else.

I was stopped at a light this morning, frustrated, fidgeting, muttering about how irritating “waiting” at the light was, totally frustrated at being stopped,  and started to think about time, and how much self induced stress I impose on myself because of “time”.  Rushing from here to there ALWAYS in a state of motion.  If your like me you have been in your car “late” for something, just beside yourself….

WHY CAN’T THEY GO FASTER!!!!  I’m LATE…

At least for me the reality is almost always it doesn’t matter that much, I’m simply not THAT important.  That meeting, appointment, if I’m 10 min late, 2 days from now no one will care, in fact, a lot of the time no one is gonna care 2 min after I arrive!

So back to the stop light this morning.  I was irritated, so irritated I starting thinking about all the time wasted at the light.  If you know me, you know I’m impatient, If you’ve worked with me you know I’m the guy that runs meetings with an egg timer.  So I timed the light, yes, I did, I timed the light, and the next 6 lights, a total of 2 min 26 seconds.  2:26 of my life I will NEVER get back!!  If that’s average for my commute thats 4:52 seconds a day, or a little over 21 hours a year (if I did my math right).  I was running all the math in my head getting more and more irritated, when I realized 2 things.

1. There is nothing I’m going to do about it…

2. It’s simply not a big deal, its not gonna matter…

The FACT is that if I’m stuck at that light 2 min or 20 min the world is not gonna change, the sun will go up and set just the same, there is simply NO reason to worry or fret about it, it’s a fools endeavor to worry about such things.   Jesus said it best, “Then, turning to his disciples, Jesus said, “That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life—whether you have enough food to eat or enough clothes to wear. For life is more than food, and your body more than clothing. Look at the ravens. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns, for God feeds them. And you are far more valuable to him than any birds! Can all your worries add a single moment to your life? And if worry can’t accomplish a little thing like that, what’s the use of worrying over bigger things?” Luke 12 22 – 26 NLT

I have actually posted this verse in a lot places around me, its in my office at work, and my office at home, I have it highlighted in my Bible, I have it written on one of my bookmarks, and yet I still rarely think about it, I rarely draw from the simple wisdom of the verse.  I think its our human nature to get caught up in our own worries and struggles and miss a lot of what God wants us NOT to miss… So what to do about it….

STOP – take a breath, pray for a min, and focus on what is the most important.  it’s NOT easy, our culture is one of busyness, and it’s hard NOT to get sucked into it.  The key is to spend the time on stuff that is meaningful and lasting…

-Christopher Behnke

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Disturbed by the NACC

Did the title of this post get your attention?

I hope so because the North American Christian Convention got my attention this week and disturbed me…in a good way.

Last January I was at a meeting in Orlando with the Publishing Committee and Editorial board of Standard Publishing when I first was challenged by Ben Cachiaras to pray the following prayer: “Dear God, disturb me.”

I prayed that prayer and that prayer was answered in my life last week.

I’ve been attending NACC’s for almost 30 years and this year’s NACC is my 2nd favorite NACCs of all time.  My favorite NACC of all time was the 2006 convention in Louisville where we united with the Churches of Christ for a sweet week of fellowship, worship, teaching, and healing.  My third favorite NACC was the 1995 convention in Indy at the Hoosierdome and not just because I saw Dan Marino up close as he walked through one of the hallways to a special event somewhere on the property.

I left the NACC this week disturbed by our church’s approach to discipleship.  We must do a better job.

I’m the Lead Minister.  I must do a better job.

I’m disturbed.

I first felt convicted during Brian Jones’ message on Wednesday morning when he spoke about the “Great Omission.” Brian pointed out how we–in the Restoration Movement–are so good at two points of the “Great Commission”–going and baptizing people–but we do a poor job of teaching people once they give their lives to Christ.  Brian said, “Failure to make disciples is the great omission.”

The “Great Omission.”

Disturbing.

For me, Francis Chan’s message served as the perfect bookend to Brian’s message and confirmation to me that God wants me to do a better job making disciples at Journey.  Francis also pointed out how we talk so much about the Great Commission, but do so little to actually make disciples.  Early in his message Francis asked, ”What percentage of your church has actually made a disciple?”

Francis said that–in his opinion–one of the most “destructive heresies in the Church today is the belief that you can be a Christian but not a disciple.”  He went on to point out that we must do a better job of doing both: converting people AND making them disciples.

In his message, Brian Jones criticized how most churches measure success.  He pointed out that we typically measure success by looking at the number of people in the seats on Sunday morning and the number of people we’ve baptized.  He said we should be asking, “How many lives have been transformed?”

Francis Chan talked about his daughter and his desire for his daughter’s life to be transformed by God.  He pointed out that his daughter’s memorization of the family rules was not evidence of transformation.  Transformation is evidenced by obedience.

I stopped and asked myself, “How many lives have been transformed in the past year at Journey?”

For the past couple of months I’ve been celebrating the fact that we’ve baptized 90 people since the first of the year–with 52 being baptized in one day and that our attendance has grown by over 150 in the past 6 months, but this week I realized that we aren’t doing enough to disciple those who were baptized.  We aren’t doing enough to help people to become disciples of Jesus.

Do you know what I’ve been doing?  I’ve been saying, ”Look how big my pile is.”

In his message on Thursday morning Francis emptied a packet of salt in his hand and then he covered those few grains of real salt with a huge pile of “fake salt” that represented salt that is completely worthless, tasteless, and purpose-less.  He then asked, “Why in the world would we do this?”  It ruins the good salt.

He then answered his own question.  He said, “We do this so we can say, ‘See how big my pile is.’”

Jesus didn’t call us to make bigger piles of worthless salt.

He called us to lead people to Him and then make them disciples.  He called us to make more good salt.

True.

Disturbing.

Yes, the worship at the NACC was amazing (see my post from earlier this week), the facility was excellent, the program was well-planned and engaging, and the exhibit area was as fun, food-filled, fellowship-encouraging, and as free-gift-filled as ever (Can you say back-scratchers?!?)!  But, as I reflect on the 2010 NACC, the thing for which I’m most grateful is that prayer Ben asked me to pray in Orlando six months ago.

“Dear God, disturb me.”

I’ve returned to my ministry a better minister because I was disturbed last week.

Thanks Ben.

Thanks Brian, Dick, Francis…and all of the other speakers I was blessed to hear last week.

Thank you Lord.

Yes, this week’s NACC was disturbing.

And, for that, I’m grateful.


Hey! Are you dissatisfied? Part II

So my last post was talking about what I feel is one of the biggest problem in our culture today.

The problem of dissatisfaction.

Even if you don’t see this as a problem, it would still be hard to argue that it doesn’t exist in a significant way.  The question ISN’T is there a problem, but why is it so “easy” to expolit this weakness, why is it so easy to make us “want” things, what makes it so simple to cause dissatisfaction?  Are the marketers out there really “that” good??

Not to slam the creative people putting together compelling advertising campaigns that cause us to flock to the apple stores like lemmings, those guys are good, but the reason is deeper than that.  In the last 200 years it has become a fine art to exploit our human nature and cause dissatisfaction with whatever our current situation is, the fact our human nature can be exploited proves that there is something not quite right, something inherently wrong with our humanness, something MISSING…

It’s my belief that as humans God created us with a need that can only be filled with Him.  This is not a new concept by any means, in fact, no one is really sure exactly who thought through the concept originally, but the “God shaped hole” word picture was probably taken from something the famous mathematician and philosopher Pascal (1623 – 1662) wrote. “What else does this craving, and this helplessness, proclaim but that there was once in man a true happiness, of which all that now remains is the empty print and trace? This he tries in vain to fill with everything around him, seeking in things that are not there the help he cannot find in those that are, though none can help, since this infinite abyss can be filled only with an infinite and immutable object; in other words by God himself.”

In any case, scholars a lot smarter than me have spent a lot of time and effort studying the concept of this “thirst”, and its universally accepted that it exists.  Of course the debate on “why” and “how” it can or should be filled continues.

I would argue from personal experience in my own life that the only way to quench this thirst and live in a “fulfilled” state is to fill that hole with service to God.  Now what does that mean, and practically speaking how do you “actually” do that??   Not an easy question, one that I’m still trying to answer, and I would argue the answer can never “fully” be understood.  Saying that, over the years I have learned a couple things that have helped me in this.  First of all, God has designed each one of us with certain gifts or skills, our “gifts” are usually masked by years of school teaching and cultural programming, but they exist deep down inside, and He built into our human nature the desire to serve Him through the use of those gifts.

“Chris, are you saying I need to find my gift and become a monk in a remote monastery somewhere, cause I’m not cool with that…”

I’m not saying that at all, I believe God has made it clear that He wants us to use our gifts and talents to help others find and understand Him.   I believe that if your doing what God wants you to do you will have a natural passion that can be used for good things.  When someone has “passion” it can be a very powerful thing, examples throughout history abound.  The KEY is to try and learn what your “passion” is, what God has built into you, and use it for His kingdom.  It’s not an easy process, frankly its one that I think 99% of people miss entirely.  I suppose the real question is are you going to be the 1% or just a typical member of the 99%…

Good luck!

-Christopher Behnke

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Hey! Are you dissatisfied? If you said NO, are you sure??

Hey!  Are you dissatisfied?  Internally conflicted? No? Really, are you sure?…  Most of us when asked will answer a quick ‘nope’ without even a seconds thought.  Trouble is, we (me included) are almost always not actually satisfied with life.

Let’s face it, our entire society is built around the principal of gaining the attention of an individual and causing dissatisfaction, oh its not without purpose, its done deliberately with the idea of getting that individual, in their dissatisfied state, to spend some money so they can “get” satisfied.  You might say I’m exaggerating, but frankly I’m not.

Think about it, no better yet try it, -> turn on the TV, turn on the radio, pick up a magazine, go to the movies, or even just drive down the freaking street!  Unless you live in some fire tower deep in the remote wilderness, you can’t go through a single day without a constant deluge of advertising, marketing, product placement, and distractions.  EVERY SINGLE ONE has a single common goal.

(MAKE THE AUDIENCE DISSATISFIED AT ANY COST)

Is it any wonder we struggle with so many conflicting battles?  Take ‘weight’ for example, an average American is exposed to dozens if not hundreds of ads a day for food and things to eat, all designed to make you feel hungry so you will run right down the the McDonald’s on the corner and sink your teeth into that Big Mac.  On the same day (probably every other ad) hundreds of images of perfect looking skinny people talking about weight-loss, or even more confusing, talking about food.  Advertisers laugh their way to the bank as you grab your keys, jump in your car, and stop at Taco Bell for your “Fourth Meal” on the way to Walgreens to get your diet shakes.

How sick is that..

Pretty sick..

So what am I supposed to do about that Chris?

Remote Island Anyone?????

Ok, its hard, unless you do actually pack up and head off to that fire tower, your NOT going to escape it.  We are all faced with the American dilemma of a bigger house, cooler car, skinnier body, and those new killer jeans.  Its a battle all of us are going to have to face the rest of our lives.  The worst part is its gonna be even more difficult for our children.

I struggle with this a lot, just like everyone else.  The key is to understand “why” this junk is so effective on us as humans.  You need to understand why that phenomenon happens when you get that new car and your “high” for a few weeks and feel GREAT, until that is, we realize that there are a TON of other cars that are faster, cooler, and “better” than ours.  It comes from something that is built into every single one of us, into our human nature.  Something is missing, something that, pretty much from the day we are born we want to fill, to satisfy.  That car, house, job, special possession, they all work for a little bit, some even for a little bit longer, but they don’t actually fill the need, they don’t ACTUALLY satisfy…

What does?  I know what does for me, I’ll write about that next…

-Christopher Behnke


What would you do if you had more time?

What’s the one thing you wish you could do, but don’t have enough time.

Take an art class, write a book, learn a language, create that scrapbook of your family vacation, heck even just clean our your garage!  You know what the IT is, in fact, I bet the second you read the question “What’s the one thing you wish you could do, but don’t have enough time.” the IT popped into your head. read more click-> %%title%%.

Poem by Coach Wooden

My friend Dudley Rutherford just posted this poem on his blog by Coach John Wooden.  Coach Wooden quoted this poem when he was inducted into the Collegiate Basketball Hall of Fame:

God’s Hall of Fame

Your name may not appear down here,
In this world’s hall of fame,
In fact you may be so unknown,
That no one knows your name!

The Oscars here may pass you by
And neon lights of blue,
But if you love and serve the Lord,
Then I have news for you.

This hall of fame is only good
As long as time shall be,
But keep in mind, God’s Hall of fame,
Is for eternity!

To have your name inscribed up there
Is greater yet by far,
Than all the Halls of Fame down here
And every man-made star.

This crowd on earth may soon forget
The heroes of the past,
They cheer like mad until you fall,
And that’s how long you last.

But God, He never does forget,
And in His Hall of Fame
By just believing in his Son,
Inscribed you’ll find your name.

I tell you, friend, I wouldn’t trade
My name however small,
That written there beyond the stars
In that celestial hall,

For any famous name on earth
Or glory that they share;
I’d rather be unknown here,
And have my name up there.


More On Cohabitation Before Marriage

About 14,000 readers have read my post on the dangers of living together before marriage: Seven Reason Why Living Together Before Marriage is not a Good Idea.

It’s obviously a topic that a lot of people are interested in.

That’s why Paul Williams’ article in the Christian Standard caught my eye.  He writes: read more click-> %%title%%.